I didn’t consider myself a sex addict. Sure, I had a problem with pornography and masturbation, but I wasn’t as messed up as the other guys in there, the sex addict guys. The truth was I was very messed up and an addict indeed. I came to realize this later.
Through the use of verses and the program, the pornography and the masturbation ended. I finally felt true freedom. The most difficult thing for me was the celibacy fast. I felt like I was going through withdrawal, which I was. It was at that point that I realized just how deep the problem went. By completing the fast, I took another step in my recovery, my walk with God, and my relationship with my wife. Sex was no longer my primary driving force.
There are many things about Avenue that I like very much. First, I’ve made very good friends there. I love the guys in my current group, but I also hold dear affection for those who were in the small group when I first started. Most of them are still in the program. I’m able to talk frankly and openly with all of them and share my successes and struggles. It was and is a relief to be somewhere where somebody understands what I’ve gone through and am going through.
How Community Helps a Sex Addict
For too long I felt like I was the only one with the problem. I also like how the materials have followed right along with my recovery. I’ve felt as if what was in the books always came along at the time I needed it the most. The materials have not only helped me deal with the sexual addiction, but they’ve helped improve my relationships, they’ve strengthened my marriage, and they’ve brought me through other struggles that I had as well. From September 2007 through April 2008 I battled negative self-talk that was focused on my wife and threatened to tear us apart. With the materials and my power verses I had victory over those thoughts through the Lord. I know more joy and peace now than I’ve ever experienced in my life.
I’m not perfect, and the Lord isn’t done with me yet. There are things we still need to work on, and I know our relationship can grow stronger yet. For the first time in my life, though, I’m healed. I couldn’t have done that without the program and the guys who are there.
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